So, I was flipping through the TV listings tonight and I came across a show on TLC called Toddlers & Tiaras. To be honest, my first thought was, Are you freakin’ kidding me? Who would put their child through something like that? No wonder little girls grow up with such self-esteem issues these days. Of course, I immediately stopped myself and admitted that I may be jumping to conclusions and judging a book by its cover. I decided I’d watch a few minutes of it just to see what it was all about…
Yep, my first instinct was correct. This show is, in a nutshell, appalling. It’s basically a show about mothers who are obviously trying REALLY hard to live vicariously through their daughters. In one part of the show, a mother was trying to teach her four year old a routine for her upcoming beauty pageant and her daughter wasn’t doing it to the mother’s satisfaction. She made her daughter do it over and over again, trying to make the kid feel guilty by telling her that she would look silly in front of people if she didn’t do it right. Like I said, Are you freakin’ kidding me???? In another part, a little girl was being interviewed by the camera people and she sounded like a stuck up, spoiled, little beeyatch – smug, arrogant, I’m-better-than-all-of-those-other-girls-and-I-always-will-be. She was five years old. Her mother was interviewed moments later and she sounded exactly as her daughter had. It instantly enraged me (something which doesn’t happen very often with me these days) and I was ready to jump through the TV and smack that kid’s mother upside the head. I immediately turned back to the olympics – much less enraging!
How can a parent choose to teach their child to be so arrogant or use guilt on a four year old? Are these women so insecure that they have to use their own children to achieve their own, twisted goals. What drives a woman to ruin her daughter’s chance of growing up well-adjusted, confident and accepting of other people? I think this is a disgusting – DISGUSTING – thing to do to a small child who’s most formative years are between birth and six years old. What sort of chance does a kid have with parents like these?
Teaching your child to have confidence in herself is one thing, but teaching your child that’s it’s okay to judge others by how pretty they are or how much they have or what they’ve won in their short lives just seems inherently wrong to me. Not only that, but how does buying a $2000 dress for a four year old teach her about the value of money???
You know, I try very hard not to judge people and I am usually fairly good at it, but in this instance I just can’t help myself. I think all of these women have some serious issues and I can only hope that they will somehow realize this and get help so their daughters will somehow have a chance of growing up happy.
Okay, my rant is finished. Peace out!